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THE SEX MAID

It has been about six months since we have met, and we have been in bed with each other quite a few times. This time is going to be different. We met on a Saturday morning at her house where for some reason she was looking quite hot and sexy. You were wearing a beautiful summer dress, with a low cut front that gave a good glance of your cleavage. You ran into my arms like you haven’t seen me in about a month giving me one of the best kisses I have ever had. When we have stopped kissing, you got on your knees and said that you had been a bad girl and that you were all mine for the weekend and I was to have my way with you. We went and had some breakfast talking about what to do for this weekend. You said that “All you want to do was to have sex all weekend long.” In short spend the weekend naked at my house having sex when and where I wanted. Then you leaned over to kiss me and whispered in my ear that you had on a pair of thong panties and matching bra. We finished breakfast and went to my house. We weren’t in the house two minutes when you were out of your dress leaving your thong panties on. Then jumped into my arms telling me that you wanted to be my sex maid. I looked at you and said, “Sex Maid?” You said, “Yes, Sex Maid. A maid that would clean and cook for you and have sex anytime you wanted, the way you wanted.” I said, “OK, if that is what you want then you can start cleaning the kitchen and after that clean the bathrooms and start the laundry.” “Oh, by the way your maid uniform is that thong you have on.” You kissed me with a strange look in your eyes, like what is wrong with you, are you sick, but you said, “Yes, Sir whatever you say sir.” You have been working hard in the kitchen for about an hour when I came in and told you to get on your knees in front of me and suck my cock.  With no questions you did as is said, with a big grin on your face, like he is going to fuck me now. You got on your knees and pulled my pants down and started licking and kissing my cock, and playing with my balls. Then you put my dick into your mouth and started giving me a good blow-job. You sucked me so good that in about five minutes I was cumming down your throat swallowing all my cum. After you had finished cleaning my cock up with your tongue and mouth. You looked up at me and said, “Now it’s my turn sweetie eat my pussy.” I looked down at you saying, “You did a good job sucking my dick, but you haven’t finished in the kitchen yet, get back to work maid.” You got up to your feet using a piece of paper-towel to wipe your face off saying, “My pussy is wet and wants to be fucked by you. I turned back around with a look of disapproval on my face and saying, “You said that you want to be my Sex Maid, so get back to work maid. So you went back to work so frustrated you lost track of time forgetting to fix my lunch. I came back into the kitchen asking where is my lunch? You said, “You didn’t give instructions for lunch.” I scolded you saying, “You’re my Sex Maid and as such it goes without saying that you are to fix my meals! So make me a couple of sandwiches and bring them to me in the den.” In about five minutes you come into the den with my sandwiches and see that I’m watching a porn flick. You ask, “Can I watch with you? “I look at you and say, “No, you will be too busy watching me jack-off and cumming all over your tits.”  You go to your knees and start watching me with the hope that after I cum on your tits, that I will start having sex with you on the den floor.  You sit watching me, you start cheering for me to cum because you know that I know you like for me to cum all over your firm tits. “Cum for me, shot that hot juicy cum all over me, cum all over your tits.”  After about 15 minutes I get up and start cumming all over your big firm tits. You cry out, “Yes, cum all over my titties baby.” As you start rubbing my cum all over and playing with your nipples and saying, “See how hard my nipples are for you.”  I then tell you “Clean my dick up with your mouth and then go clean the bathrooms.  This time there is no complaints from you. You just get up and do as you were told to do. In about an hour or so I get up to go to the bathroom and I start hearing what sounds like someone moaning and it start getting louder and louder. As I get to the door of the bathroom, I see you playing with your pussy and I hear you whispering “I’m cumming, I’m cumming, I’m cumming all over my fingers for you!” Just as you started coming down I opened the door saying, “I caught you playing on the job! Scaring you half to death. You jump to your feet with a scared look on your face, trying to pull up your thong uniform, “I’m sorry sir, I’m sorry. You don’t have to worry about me playing with myself again.” I tell you, “Just shut up and hold my cock so that I can take a piss, and finish cleaning the bathroom. Take your uniform off and take a nap. You will need It.”  I went back to the den and finished watching my movies. You finished the cleaning and went to the bedroom and took your thong uniform off and got into bed and went to sleep. At about 10:37 that night I went to the bedroom and watched you sleep. In about ten to fifteen minutes you awakened up and asked, “What are you doing sir?”  I said, “I’m admiring your beautiful body.” You turned over and asked, “Do you want me to play with my pussy for you? “I looked at you as you lofted your leg up so I could see your pussy. You started running your hand down over your tits and down to your pussy saying, “I’m all hot and wet and I want to put on a show for you lover. “I said, “OK, that sounds like a good idea. Play with your pussy for me and watch me as I play with my cock.” You started to rub and play with your breast and nipples telling me how hard your nipples are. Then you ran your hand down to your hot wet cunt. Just have you touched your clit you moaned like I have never herded you before? You played with your clit a little, and then you slid one finger in your wet hole. You looked over at me has I played with my dick, saying how hot you were and how much you wanted me in your mouth. You watched me stroke my big fat hard cock as you fingered your wet snack and play with your nipples. As I watched you play, you said, “I’m cumming, I’m going to cum for you baby. Watch me cum all over my fingers, watch me, I’m cumming, I’m cumming, Oh, shit I’m cumming. “Just as you started cumming, I was getting ready to cum to. I got up and said, “Open your mouth so I can cum in your mouth and on your face. “After we clam down, you rolled over and started kissing me all over stopping at my semi hard cock to kiss, lick and suck my dick into a full blown hard on again. I got up on top of you with your feet resting on my shoulders. I started out slow and soft working my way up to a good hard strong fuck. You grabbed a hold to the headboard and started to screaming, “Oh, pooh, fuck me, fuck me hard, harder, shit, oh shit, fuck me hard motherfucker, fuck me good and hard. Damn you’re fucking the shit out of me. Make me cum all over your big fat hard cock.Then you started cumming and you started to say, “OH, shit I can’t stop cumming, I can’t stop cumming. Oh, please, doesn’t stop fuck me. Fuck me good. Feel my hot cum all over your cock your big fat cock.Then I had you get on your knees so that I could fuck you doggie style. As so as I was in I started bagging my fat cock in and out of your wet cunt as hard as you wanted. Then I stopped and without you knowing I slammed my cock into your ass. You screamed out with pain of my dick in your ass, but after a few strokes you began to like it. You even said, “Yes, fuck me in my ass, fuck my ass, and fuck my ass until you cum. As I fucked your ass you played with your pussy and felt my balls slapping your hot wet pussy .You screamed out that you were going to cum saying, “Yes, yes, yes fuck me, fuck that ass, I’m cumming, fuck my ass.”  I then started to cum as well yelling that, “I was cumming in your ass.” You said, “Yes cum in my ass, cum in my ass, fill my ass with your hot load you big hot motherfucker, cum in my motherfucking ass.” After that we passed out on the bed all hot and sweaty and sticky with each other’s cum all over us.

Composer:- David warlock

Editor:- Annie Brown

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A MOON🌙 IN THE WILD

As I’m walking through an amusement park I see three girls I want to do in high school Tammy a short stocky Fiery redhead with blue eyes And peaches and cream skin with thick Hands with black painted nails she was wearing a short pair of black boots and a tight fitting black leather dress her friend Rhonda also a redhead with green eyes and a skinny wire rebuild and A Thin Wiry Build And long willowy arms at the end of those arms were a pair of snow white delicate hands today they happened to be adorned with bright green nail polish she was wearing a pair of tight fitting leather black pants and like her friend A pair of black thigh high boots the third girl in the trio Rachel a big beautiful girl with huge thick hands unlike her friends she had not And denim shorts and a tight fitting pink tube top they were all waiting in line to get on the Tilt a whirl A ride I have always hated when they saw me however Tammy suggested I go on the ride with them I politely tried to decline but before I could Tammy and Rhonda had each taken One of my hands and Rachel held my shoulders and steered my chair towards the entrance line the line was long so I thought there was hope of getting out of this situation I began coming up with a plethora of excuses as to why I should not ride this ride but before I could finish my sentence I was suddenly cut short Rachel’s huge Thick warm sweaty hand was clamped tightly across my mouth as the line became shorter I grew evermore frantic however you would never know it was getting dark so people couldn’t see Rachel‘s gagging hand planted over my mouth we just looked like three friends about to get a ride when our turn finally came all hope of a scape vanished as I Was half carried half dragged into the giant teacup seated firmly between The two redheads Rhonda on my left and Tammy to my right when the ride started each girl grabbed one of my hands and forced it down into the left meanwhile Rachel seated slightly behind me and to my left encircled my waist and pulled me into her open legs when the ride started my head was forced back against her shoulder due to the G forces she took advantage of this opportunity as I began to Yell her warm sweaty palm fastened itself firmly across my mouth held firmly and unable to object there was nothing for it but to endure this ride it would all be over soon I thought fortunately the ride stopped relatively soon now is my chance I thought and began to try and extricate myself from both the ride and the relatively embarrassing situation right now found myself in however things did not go as I had planned Rachel tightened her grip over my mouth and both Rhonda and Tammy held my hands down so I couldn’t get the ride operator’s attention all three girls began shouting for the operator to start the ride again horrified but unable to object I began to struggle but to no avail I was simply over powered and for another five minutes I spun in the arms of the three women when the ride finally came to an end I was far too dizzy to stand up Rachel cued In my ear let us help you baby with this she grabbed me around the waist and dragged backwards out of the tea cup I was too dizzy to stand Rachel had to release her grip on my mouth and put both arms around my waist but before I can even draw breath Tammy clasped both hands over my open mouth muffling any protest I might have made in her cubby super tick palms all at once I’m lifted up off the ground Rachael had my shoulders wile Ronda held my legs they carried me squirming and hand gagged to Rachel’s car I was forced in the back between Tammy and Ronda who wrapped her thin but strong arms around me while Tammy held my hands down Ronda meanwhile slapped her cool delicate but very storing hand across my mouth restrained and hand gagged I was driven off into the night.

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We got to a nearby close and I was excited and anxious to get off the car knowing I was close to my haven, unluckily for me, the girls had other plans which were unknown to me. The car slowed down as if we were going to pick up someone along the way. Tammy said in anxiety “who wants to get high tonight?” That sounded wired to me cus I had no idea what she was referring to and why such a wired commentary 樂. I hurriedly raised my voice in an angry tone and requested to get off the ride as my face turned red. Rhonda looked at me and smile  with a wild gaze and said you’re about to become a man and the luckiest  of all, showing off her breast she said would you love to suckle me and my friends……? Right there and then my heart raced even more than expected I nodded my head and tried to make a statement but Rachel held me bound with a kiss and said you don’t speak, you only nod and do as you’re told. I was blinded folded and gagged, I could notice the huge rush in my veins as my dick began to arise from the thoughts in my head “what are they going to do to me? Could it be tonight I lose my virginity? What if I’m being kidnapped, what will be my bailout Ransome? All these questions I wanted to ask but I couldn’t say a word. Tammy came back with a fancy bag filled with alcohol, weed, promethazine and speed. The girls were excited and I was furious about that. Rhonda systematically said to Tammy *(she’s good to go, let’s hit the road)* Tammy hurriedly looked back and smiled at me and she said “after tonight,  you did wish you were a girl”. At this point, my fate was hanging on⏲️

Composed by Dan

Edited by Annie Brown

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Understanding Consensual Non-Consent

A true Submissive story and testimony

don’t remember the first time I had a fantasy that involved dominance and force. I was about 12 when I started to discover my sexuality, and in the years between 8th and 10th grade I bent down the pages of novels to mark the sexy parts.

Then came the internet, and access to erotica. I read sexy stories far before I ever discovered video based porn. I’m sure I still have a folder somewhere full of the bootleg erotica I printed out when my parents weren’t home, crossing my fingers they’d be gone until I had it safely spirited away from the printer.

I didn’t know that there were other women that got turned on by movies or dreams that involved kidnapping or rape.

At some point, I discovered non-consent/reluctance stories. For over a decade, I never told anybody how those stories piqued my interest. I didn’t know that there were other women that got turned on by movies or dreams that involved kidnapping or rape. Even now, 25 years later and with a wide base of knowledge about sex, kink, and fantasy, it feels risky to type it here.

If you have fantasies about being taken, you’re not alone.

I have a distinct memory of driving through town with one of my friends as she admitted that non-consent erotica was her genre of choice. My relief that I wasn’t the only one with those feelings and fantasies was palpable.

For women who don’t have an outlet or a place to talk about sex, having fantasies that society views as taboo can be scary. Many women who have these types of fantasies worry it means something is wrong with them, or that they aren’t normal. One of the biggest reasons I talk and write about sex and kink is to help those people feel less alone. It helps that I’m not the only one talking about it. In her recent article, Rape Fantasies Have Nothing to Do With Rape, Octavia Morrison said:

Rape fantasies are mistakenly named — it is an imaginary act of being taken by a passionate male, free from any possible assault. As it is happening in our minds, consent is out of question. No harm comes of it. It’s about nothing but surrendering to our lizard brain, giving up power. These “rape” scenarios are arousing because they are creating the illsuion of danger without actually being in danger.It is a desire for submission, that can be lived in safe BDSM Dom/Sub scenarios — with full consent, without the fear of being hurt.

What is Consensual Non-consent Play?

Consensual non-consent is a type of BDSM play in which the participants engage in play that mimics non-consensual behavior. Often abbreviated to CNC, it may also be referred to as resistance, reluctance, or rape play. Scenarios for how people engage in these activities vary. Some examples include:

° An orchestrated “kidnapping” in which a participant is taken by force.

°A participant being tied up or otherwise restrained while they are taken.

°Sex that takes place while someone is asleep or drugged (real or pretend)

°Play that implements a safeword so that words like no, stop, and other begging can be used during a scene without ending it.

°Play that implements a safeword so that words like no, stop, and other begging can be used during a scene without ending it.

Kinks can run the gamut from fairly tame to what’s referred to as “edge play,” activities like rope suspension and bondage, knife play, needles, and things that inherently carry more risk to the participants. CNC is a type of edge play, for both the physical and mental aspects it might present to the players.

The first C is the big C! The first and most important thing to understand is when it comes to CNC play, all of it is truly consensual. Participants have discussed how they will play ahead of time within the framework of negotiating and consent that they have settled on.

Above everything is agreeing on how consent will be communicated and, if necessary, withdrawn.

Negotiating a CNC play session, or scene, must involve discussing the fantasy, setting boundaries, and agreeing on how the scenario will be ended if anyone involved changes their mind. Discuss safe words or signals, and whether normal words like no and stop will end play or be part of the role-play. Above everything is agreeing on how consent will be communicated and, if necessary, withdrawn.

Kinksters come in all shapes, sizes, colors, ages, and genders.

To people outside the kink community, this type of play may seem extreme or shocking. Even inside BDSM communities, there are plenty of people who do not engage in CNC. However, there is a widely used saying: your kink is not my kink, but your kink is okay. The ways in which people get their freak on vary widely, and everyone has turn-ons and turn-offs. The people who play this way are just normal people. Kinksters come in all shapes, sizes, colors, ages, and genders.

But rape isn’t erotic or a turn on! How can anyone want that? People who fantasize about rape or CNC do not want to be assaulted. The first thing we have to recognize is that real-life rape is anything but erotic. Dr. Leon Seltzer clarifies:

It’s crucial to recognize that real-life rape is anything but erotic for a woman. Being at the mercy of someone who’s so outrageously violating your will, holding you down, threatening you with bodily harm (or even death), and physically forcing himself upon you induces arousal all right. But not that of sexuality, but of utterly petrifying anxiety and panic. Contrast this to most imagined rape scenes, which are so electrifying precisely because they’re expressly designed by their female creator to stimulate the illusion of danger — which can, in fact, be positively arousing. So, in such idealized “pretend scenarios,” a woman can experience her rawest, most unconstrained sexuality as fully, wondrously, even miraculously expressed — in no way impeded by any viscerally felt sense of peril. Diametrically opposed to actual rape, the fantasy really isn’t about losing control as such. It’s about willingly surrendering it.

Women who are aroused by the thought or suggestion of being taken are not fantasizing about being raped. They’re fantasizing about a lustful experience that they want to have and are willing participants in even if it starts out as something else.

Why do people have these kinds of fantasies? Why does anyone fantasize about anything? It can be a lot of fun to imagine or playact things that you would never want to do in real life. Tons of research has been done into different types of fantasies, preferences, and sexual desires, and there is no simple answer for why people like the things they do. Human beings and our brains are complex. Some of the reasons that have been suggested for why people enjoy CNC play include:

°Escaping from the guilt society places on women in particular about wanting sex (guilt avoidance). °The fantasy of being so attractive/irresistible someone can’t help but lose control and take what they want. °From the other side of things, letting go and giving in to pure desire/primal lust. °Pleasure found in the addition of adrenaline and heightened awareness/arousal caused by fear, even when it’s a controlled experience. °Removal of the pressure to perform. °Working through past trauma.

Many people have these kinds of fantasies without ever figuring out why, and are able to enjoy CNC play. However, if you are having these types of thoughts and fantasies and it bothers you, it’s worth talking to a professional to delve into the underlying feelings and ideas to resolve your discomfort.

It’s not actually about rape, it’s about releasing control.

Understand that CNC play is not about rape. Rape is a violent act in which the victim has no control over what’s happening. As one reddit user pointed out:

I’m sure there are exceptions but generally speaking noone literally wants to be forced into sex by someone they don’t know and don’t trust. Giving in to sex, giving up control, it’s an amazing feeling, but with someone you trust won’t actually harm you. Just like any other fetish. I also like to watch men masturbate, but i don’t want some guy coming up to me in the subway and whipping his junk out to fap. There are boundaries. Rules to discuss beforehand. It is in fact all consensual, even if you decide to “play” and pretend it’s not.

So it’s hot when it’s wanted, so really, it’s not actually a big deal. If it’s asked for it doesn’t bear resemblance to rape. It’s just relinquishing control of the situation while still being in control.

Relinquishing control is powerful.

Many of us go through life every day being in control of everything around us. We don’t have the ability to hand over control to other people. When I first started dabbling in kink and power exchange, I was a single mom who worked full time. I ran my own household and managed myself and my kids 24/7. Submitting to someone else meant relief from the pressure of having to be in charge of everything all the time.

How do people negotiate CNC?

Once you’re lucky enough to find a partner who shares the same fantasies you do, how do you negotiate the scene so that everyone involved comes out of it without being actually harmed? It’s going to involve a lot of talking, planning, and honesty.

Rules of CnC

°Safeword “red” immediately stops all activity.
°Safeword “yellow” necessitates a switch in activity, possibly subject to brief discussion.
°Dominant partner’s goal is to have PIV sex.
°Submissive partner’s goal is to meet the escape condition, to be decided on an environmental basis. °For example: touch the doorknob.
Either partner’s success condition will end the scene and a new one can be initiated with the same or °modified conditions.
°Wear clothing that can be destroyed.
°No stiletto heels.
°No glasses or jewelry.
°No skin biting. Only deeper tissue °biting is allowed.
°No face punching.
°No playing with piercings.
°No ropes on necks (softer material, such as a cotton shirt, is allowed).
°Discuss all weapons and restraints ahead of time (blades, gun facsimiles).
°No oral.
°Anal with pre-approved toys only.

This is just an example of rules that worked for one game. Some of the items on the list, like no ropes on necks, no oral, and no playing with piercings, are the types of things you’d want to discuss with any new kink or sexual partner in order to communicate your boundaries. Others are specific to rough play or to CNC play in particular.

If you are negotiating a CNC scene to take place at a club or gathering within the BDSM community, they may have guidelines or resources to help you negotiate scenes with new partners. Talk to event planners, community members, or dungeon monitors about what is and isn’t allowed, or to get tips and ideas for things to cover during negotiations.

The type of relationship you have with the person you’ll be playing with also contributes to how you plan and negotiate your fun. If you’re just playing or hooking up, it’s a good idea to set express limits on the activity or time period during which you’ll play. Within an ongoing relationship, talk about things before each individual instance since things can change from day to day.

What could go wrong? As with any type of non-vanilla sexual play, there is a chance something might not go as planned. Really, with any type of intimacy there’s that chance. If you’ve got known triggers or physical limitations, they should be discussed during negotiations. But, the thing with triggers is that you don’t always know them. This is why it’s a good idea to talk about contingencies.

If you’re in the middle of things and something just doesn’t seem right, stop and check in.

During the scene, pay attention to your partner. Talk about what might happen to you if you get triggered so they can watch for those things. Sometimes if something goes wrong and someone is upset or scared, they find themselves unable to communicate it. If you’re in the middle of things and something just doesn’t seem right, stop and check in. If it breaks the mood, and they didn’t need the check in, you can get back into it or try again another time.

Make sure you consider both the top and bottom when thinking about how plans could go awry. Different types of domination and power play can evoke different, powerful psychological responses. If someone hasn’t played this way before, it’s probably not a good idea to plan a super elaborate scene the first time out. Even though it’s not real, pretending to do violence or harm to another person is a lot of responsibility.

This seems like something I’d enjoy- what do I do now?

As mentioned earlier, CNC play is definitely an edgier type of kink play. Depending on how playful you want to be, how much you’ve dabbled with it before, and how much planning you do, it can get very dark. If you think you might be interested in exploring this type of play, the first step is to get educated. CNC is a huge topic: what you’ve read here just skims the surface. Some of the areas you might want to explore are risks, examples, scenarios, ideas, and information about this type of play and the different ways it can be done. I’ve compiled a list of resources I found helpful in explaining and understanding CNC.

Consensual non-consent isn’t a simple topic, but if you find yourself interested, know that you are not alone. There’s a reason so many romance novel covers feature a Fabio-esque strongman holding a limp woman’s helpless body with just one enormously muscled arm. The fantasy of being under someone else’s control is nothing to be ashamed of, and you should feel free to fantasize or play with CNC to your heart’s content.

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BDSM RULES AND REGULATIONS

Let’s Take A Look At Some Of The Bdsm Rules

Anyone not familiar with S &M, femdom or BDSM could be forgiven for thinking it was a free for all for the Dominant and the submissive just had to accept all and anything thrown at them.

Those who are in the scene, however, know that this is nowhere near the case. Whilst one partner is “in control” and the other is under that control, in reality, BDSM is all about consent.

One party is consenting to be dominated by the other. It is important to create a safe area where the scenario and sessions can be acted or played out without anyone, as daft as this may sound, getting hurt (I know, it’s a weird thing to say!)

There are rules which are prevalent and which must always be adhered to. It may seem bizarre for a vanilla person to accept but s&m and femdom are actually supposed to be fun and if the rules are not stuck to then one party ceases to have fun and the whole thing is a waste of everyone’s time.

9 Important Rules In Bdsm 

1 – Always Have A Safeword
It is of vital importance that a safeword is given BEFORE the session begins. A sub will naturally yell “no, stop” but this will usually be part of the “game”.

Begging the Domina to stop while she keeps going is exciting and part of the game. It is pointless if she stops because of it. That’s why it is good to have a safeword that is nothing to do with the scenario.

The word “red” is the most commonly used option. It is never going to be used unless wanted so it makes for a good choice.

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2 – If The Safeword Is Used, Stop Immediately
As already said, trust is the major component of any BDSM session. Combine that with the enjoyment factor and you understand the importance of respecting any safeword usage.

No matter how much a Domme is enjoying whipping or caning her sub if he uses the word, she will/must stop immediately.

Likewise, although it is rare, a Domina may also use a safeword if the bottom is making her feel uncomfortable (for example if they are playing out a kidnap scenario and he is fighting back a little too much). In short, when the word is spoken, the session has been suspended.

3 – Always Obey Each Others Limits
It is often said in BDSM circles “I push peoples limits and beyond”. Best advice? Steer well clear of those types of people.

Everyone has limits and you should NEVER try to go beyond them. They are limits for a reason. A huge part of BDSM is trust. If a sub no longer trusts their Dom then it can never be replaced.

4 – Never Meet Someone You Don’t Know In Private
May seem fairly obvious but you would be surprised how many people meet total strangers off the internet and allow them to put them in bondage.

Always make sure someone knows where you are, as a way of contacting or locating you and that you have a way of communicating with someone else. Also, NEVER let a stranger secure you using rope, cuffs, stocks etc till you know them and trust them 100%. You can have a look for a mistress here at the femdom mistress cams section

5 – Respect Each Others Limits
Similar to rule number 3, respecting the other parties limits is important. They should always be respected, even if you would rather push further.

6 – Use SSC
SSC stands for Safe, Sane & Consensual. Safe means you know what you are doing and aren’t putting anyone in harm’s way.

No hanging someone by the neck or covering their head in a plastic bag. Sane means that all parties involved are not being forced or coerced and everyone is there of their own free will.

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7 – Use RACK
RACK stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink. It is a step up from SSC and means that you are indulging in acts not considered safe (breath play, blood play, mummification etc) but you are both still willing to go ahead. It is an edgy framework that lets both sides know what they are getting into

8 – Respect The Difference Between Fantasy & Reality
Many people have massively intricate and even dangerous fantasies that turn them on but have no wish to make a reality.

Talking about it is one thing but never confuse a discussion or something that is said in a session with an open invitation to proceed with that act.

For example, a female sub may say her fantasy is to be used as a sex slave at an all-male party, forced to suck cock and be fucked multiple times but that doesn’t mean she wants a surprise party thrown where she is the entertainment.

Likewise, a male sissy slave may express a desire to be fucked up the ass by a man but that doesn’t mean he actually wants it. Stick to what is verbally agreed for physical acts and let the fantasies remain only spoken. The fetish world is brought into many Bdsm Scenario

– Always Respect Your Partner
A ballbusting, man-hating bitch she may be within a session but a real Dominatrix will always respect her sub, his limits and what he is looking for in a femdom session. The Mistress may not respect the slave but a Domme will respect the submissive if that makes sense.

Likewise, the sub must always respect his Mistress. Many wannabe subs will talk back, bark orders and “try their luck” but this shows a total lack of respect.

Respecting each other, and showing that respect, ensures you both feel comfortable to carry on with the session.

The above are 9 rules important for BDSM and femdom as a whole and cover both parties but what about rules for a Dominant? OR for a submissive? Both the “top” and the “bottom” have separate rules they should always adhere to.

Rules For A Submissive In BDSM Session

Rules for a sub to follow

1 – Surrender Completely To Your Dominant
You must surrender completely to your Mistress or Master. Unless you go “all in” then neither one of you will get any enjoyment or satisfaction from the session. You must trust in their ability and surrender heart, body and soul.

2 – Always Address Your Mistress Respectfully
It goes without saying really. Different Dommes have different titles. Either Mistress, Goddess, Lady or Princess. Whichever moniker she uses though, she should always be addressed respectfully by using it.

3 – Always Seek To Please Your Mistress
It is not just about doing as you are told. A real, proper slave will actively seek out ways to please his Mistress, even at the detriment to himself. Figure out what she enjoys or likes and look to do these for her, even if it is in detriment to your own dignity.

5 – If I Violate Any Of The Rules, I Will Tell Mistress And Accept My Fate
To surrender yourself completely to another, this includes the parts she can’t see. Your mind. Trust is the most important aspect and if you violate any of the rules, even just in your head, you need to tell her and atone for your sins.

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6 – When being Spanked, Count The Blows
Why should she have to keep count? You’re the one who messed up and needs to be punished so it’s up to you to keep “score”. Count out loud after each blow and be sure to thank her afterwards as well.

7 – Orgasms Are A Privilege
You have zero control over your orgasms. You must seek permission to orgasm and if permission is denied, you accept with grace that it is for your own good and you thank Mistress. If she gives permission then you thank her afterwards as well.

8 – Keep Yourself Groomed Properly
No woman deserves to be subjected to an unsightly pubic region. Keep your short or shaved and well-groomed.

9 – Follow All Orders To The Letter
Always obey all orders given to you and never question or answer back. You are the submissive. It is your responsibility to follow commands given and to make your Mistresses life better by serving her, not making it difficult.

10- Use safe words without fear
If you feel you have gone too far and wish to stop, you should use the safe word as soon as you realise. She needs to know you are enjoying the session so she needs to be sure you will use the safeword the second it gets too hard or uncomfortable for you.

Despite what vanilla people seem to believe, being a Domme is not free for all to do anything she wants. Here are also certain rules she must follow and, as the one with all the power, it is arguably a much greater responsibility she holds with regard to rule-following.

Bdsm Rules For a Dominatrix

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1 – Respect A Slaves Limits At All Times
Nothing violates trust more than going too far. No matter how much you may want to, you must never push beyond someone’s limits and should always remain within them.

2 – Always Act In A Subs Best Interests
Even if this contradicts with your own personal wants or desires, your subs best interests come first. You may wish to continue the caning or whipping but if they are almost passing out then you must stop.

If you have a slave locked in chastity, it is unsafe to go longer than 2 to 3 months without releasing pent up cum so you may enjoy his frustration but he should be granted permission to cum.

3 – ALWAYS Respect The Use Of The Safe Word
If the safe word is used, stop the act IMMEDIATELY. A sub won’t use the word for no reason. He is telling you it has stopped being fun for him so the second the word is said, stop what you are doing. The session needn’t be broken.

Have him kiss your feet or something, but whatever you were doing when he said the safeword must be ceased.

4 – Listen To Your Subs Needs And Desires
Being A Dom is not about being a bitch. There’s a world of difference. You must always listen to your slave and hear what he wants from a session.

If he is into cbt, there is no point in using forced feminization. A femdom session is not all about you, despite you having all the power and control.

These are the basic outline of the rules concerning BDSM. Follow them and it should ensure that all parties involved have an enjoyable and more importantly, a safe experience.

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How I find my way into BDSM

New abduction fantasy I’m at the local aquatic center I jumped out of my wheelchair to Get in The hot tub Several older larger women are already there they offered to help me I politely declined however they won’t hear of it they Forced me into the hot tub there’s no room so I am forced to sit large black woman’s lap I made several attempts to leave the hot tub but every time I get close to the stairs I feel a large arm around my waist and I I am dragged back in I feel my legs being spread apart in the hands all over me as I begin to protest A large warm wet hand clamps over my mouth I feel my swimming trunks Being removed but can’t do anything as I am being held tight suddenly I feel myself being forcibly masturbated I struggle desperately but can’t move eventually I am forced to orgasm exhausted I am Helpless to do anything suddenly a chloroform Soaked rag is forced over my mouth whispering voices tell me to breathe it in I have no choice the last thing I know is that I’m being carried into the unisex bathroom. At first I was scared 😨and terrified desperately looking for help when I loud whisper said to me “no one will hear you scream, stay calm and enjoy the ride”. I found myself in a dungeon dressed in latex dress and gaged up. As I steer into the wild space of a colorful red room, filled with lots of experimenting devices and tools my blood began to rush over the fantasies of what’s about to happen. While I was clouded in my head, a sexy majestic Supreme being walks up to me with a claim voice she said to me “welcome home my child mommy is going to feed with her golden nectar”.

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Fantasy in Kidnapping and Adoption

I was just about to go into the hot tub at my Local aquatic center However when I Notice that the hot tub is very crowded for older Larger Women have you gotten there before me unsure of what to do I hesitate I had already hopped out of my wheelchair and was just about to get back I figured I had been fairly beat me to the punch by  These ladies and think and I thought I would just come back tomorrow all at once I heard a voice Hey baby it’sadDid you want to get in? No that’s OK I said turning to see A big tall blonde lady behind me don’t be silly she said I will help you do you before I could agree she grabbed me and put me in A  Cradle carry ma’am I said I don’t know you’re smiling she said I am Jenny and these are my friends she said indicating The other three ladies in the hot tub pointing at a dark headed woman this is my friend Missy and these others here are my sister Laurie she said pointing to another blonde and my friend Tamika she said indicating the black lady There she said now there’s no reason to be shy Thoroughly embarrassed I  StruggledIn jenny‘ S arms But to no avail as I was Carried Into  the swirling Waters as soon as Jenny  set me down missy and Laurie pressed in. On me feeling uncomfortable at this point I moved to Exit the hot tub I began working my way back over to the stairs but I felt an an arm around my waist what’s  you’re  hurry I turn to see Tamika Broad smile on Her round Black face she pulls me back into her lap I am powerless to do anything As she Tightness her grip The other three women Move in closer All at once Laurie grabs my face in her hands before I can even think I feel her lips smothering mine while at the same time I feel my trunk being removed I struggleDesperately there are simply too many HandsHolding me  to my horror I feel myself being forcibly masturbated I open my mouth to protest but a Warm Wet hand  over my mouth what’s the matter baby  Is the dark-haired girl missy ask I tried to respond but your name keeps me tightly handgagged   Despite my best effort’s I am on able to break free and eventually I am forced to orgasm cries Are muffled by Jenny Who is holding me tight from behind before I can process what’s happening Her handLoosens it’s grip  on my mouth but before I could say anything A wet rag over my mouth and Laurie whispers into my ear breathe it in baby you’re coming with us to see mistress Amy she’s been waiting for you and she has set  us to kidnap you the last thing I remember is being carried out of the hot tub and Fort unisex bathroom the next thing I remember I’m on the bathroom floor on my stomach I feel my legs lifted up in the air I feel my cheeks being spread apart and a plug being inserted into my butt I scream but tamika has her hand tight in over my mouth the other ladies are fascinating a Diaper under my legs don’t worry baby we will take good care of you Missy whispers before The rag soaked in chloroform is put back over my mouth the end.

Written by Dan Halle

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TRIBUTE and SERVITUDE the ESSENSCE

Last month, a submissive from San Francisco had the honor of serving Me. Towards the end of the session, he, well-meaning gentleman that he is, blurted out, “You have certainly earned your tribute.” If he wasn’t such a sweet puppy dog that ate food off the bottom of My boots earlier, I would have whipped him to the point of permanent trauma (responsibly of course). Serving a Professional Mistress is not a cheap endeavor. Even by first-world standards, the majority of submissives must consider and budget before they withdraw $300+ from the ATM.

What is the purpose of paying tribute to a Mistress? In the inescapable truth so elegantly put into plain English by Adam Smith: 

“The propensity to truck, barter, and exchange one thing for another is common to all men.”

In other words, your money for a Mistress’ time and discretion. That is the obvious answer — but tribute itself has roots grounded in ritual.

A submissive understands that he is categorically inferior to his Mistress in every regard. He relishes and delights in this notion of inequality, and this knowledge lies at the heart of behaving properly as a lowly slave. This way of thinking is a fetish in and of itself. He knows his place, and he worships the ground on which his Mistress walks in her pointy open-toe high heels. Because he is not –and never will be — good enough for her, he must offer her tribute and gifts as a way to show gratitude for her allowing him in her presence. Paying tribute to your Mistress reinforces your lowered status in respect to hers.  It is a symbol of your deference and just one of many demonstrations you make to ingratiate yourself with her.

Money is only one aspect of serving a Mistress. Servitude must begin with the proper attitude. It is a horse of a different color between a transaction defined by paying a woman to give you instant gratification, and offering tribute as a way to show your devotion and respect. There is a difference between a client…and a submissive.

My ball-fetching, boot-licking puppy dog did not understand (he does now) that a Mistress does not earn tribute.  She expects it. It is but the first of many attempts a submissive makes in aiming to please her.

With that being said, My humble readers, I also recognize that there is an inherent, evolutionary law behind tribute that cannot be ignored. Men trade their resources for the company of women. This is a cross-cultural fact that is also present in other primates. Men understand that they themselves are not good enough for a woman, they must be able to provide — and this is the truth that feminism forgot. Men were never superior to women, never even equal to women. MEN WORK FOR WOMEN.  The real whore is the man. The woman has done all the work the moment she was born. Warren Farrell, American author, educator, and activist on men’s issues with women stated brilliantly:

“I am often asked why men don’t get as worked up as they might about women—particularly poor women—having to use their bodies as prostitutes. Because most men unconsciously experience themselves as prostitutes every day—the miner, the firefighter, the construction worker, the logger, the soldier, the meatpacker—these men are prostitutes in the direct sense: they sacrifice their bodies for money and for their families.”

(Is the man exploiting the prostitute’s body, or the prostitute exploiting the man’s libido?)

There you have it. The purpose of tribute serves reasons that are practical, philosophical, and universal. Real female supremacy is when a man devotes his life and energy to acquiring resources that a woman is naturally entitled to just by virtue of being female. We are the boss.

A Dominatrix embraces this reality of men and women. A Dominatrix is also on the side of men in that she understands them and the burden they have to carry, and thereby she grants them freedom from the burden of being a man.

Pay up and shut up.

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BDSM: Learn the Ropes Before Diving In

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Experts advise doing some research before trying BDSM at home.iStock

If you’ve ever tickled a partner in bed until they gasped, held down their arms (or had yours held down) for a moment or two, or engaged in a little bit of pinching, biting, or spanking, then you’ve already dabbled in “light” BDSM, which stands for bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism.

Why might someone want to delve deeper? Well, you know what they say about variety: It’s the spice of life. Beyond that, “honestly, it’s a great release,” says Mistress Sloane, a dominatrix who works at The Taillor Group, a kink and fetish space in Brooklyn, New York. (She asked that her real name not be used in this article “because the stigma attached is still too great in my ‘vanilla’ life.”)

“I think so much of our society is just about keeping things inside, and this is an opportunity to have a total release from that pressure and really let go of any expectation that people have of you,” she explains. “It’s your opportunity to be the person you can’t be in other spaces.”

Sloane advises those interested in pursuing BDSM to start by fantasizing. “Take a moment for yourself and just let go. What would you want to do with your partner if there were zero expectations? This does not even have to be sexual. Start easy. Work your way to your deepest desires slowly and compassionately.”

Like every aspect of the BDSM scene, if you’re going to try kink with a partner, your first focus should be on consent and safety. “To protect yourself and your partner, there should always be a safe word and you should always talk about boundaries and limits beforehand,” says Francesca Gentille, a clinical sexologist who’s been a member of and mentor in the San Francisco BDSM community for many years. “Also, start on the conservative side because you can always do more.”

“Be gentle with your partner and yourself,” agrees Sloane. “Sounds silly for BDSM, but it’s the most important part. Uncovering kinks and desire is scary. Think about the first time you had sex. It felt like jumping off a diving board into the unknown. This is the same. Take time with your partner to fill out ‘Yes,’ ‘No,’ ‘Maybe’ lists.”

“Start out slow,” she adds. “Start with maybe a feather on the body or getting blindfolded while your partner runs an ice cube down your thigh. Incorporating BDSM doesn’t have to mean being tied up. It is as wide, welcoming, beautiful, and spacious as the intimacy, consent, and love we share with the world.”

Here are more pro-domme tips for how the kink-curious can explore their budding interest:

Read steamy stories. There’s a world of erotic fiction online where you can vicariously enjoy some kink and learn more about what you might like or not like to try. A good place to start is with the short stories under the BDSM tag at the free website Literotica. To find popular BDSM-themed reads sold in bookstores, enter “BDSM” in the search engine at Goodreads. Reading about characters’ experiences can help you create character for yourself, notes Sloane. So can watching mainstream television and movie depictions of BDSM, such the six-episode Showtime series Submission and the 2002 feature film Secretary, starring Maggie Gyllenhaal and James Spader.

“One of best things about kink is that you can go beyond your everyday self,” she says. “Maybe you’re an angry housewife who spanks your partner with a rolling pin. Maybe you’re the boss and he, she, or they are the secretary. Who are your kink personas? What are the roles you’ve always wanted to inhabit?”

Learn the ins and outs. Find nonfiction practical advice in books like Exploring BDSM: A Workbook for Couples (or More!) Discovering Kink, by Morgan Thorne; Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns, by Philip Miller and Molly Devon; and Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring, and Navigating the Kink, Leather, and BDSM Communities, by Lee Harrington. There’s also Jessica Drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: BDSM for Beginners, a couples-friendly sexual education video from the well-known porn performer and director, as well as a myriad of videos on YouTube.

“Learning how do a proper spanking on YouTube can be a really good thing,” notes Mistress Damiana Chi, a dominatrix in Los Angeles. “People think spanking is like you just whack,” she says. “It isn’t. It’s a sensual experience. If you don’t start the right way with light tapping to warm up the skin, followed by a very slow progression, it doesn’t feel good ever.”

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The Best Sexual Techniques for Women’s Arousal and Pleasure

Good sex can come down to good communication — how well you and your partner can articulate your needs and desires. Often, however, women just don’t have the words to describe what they enjoy, or don’t have enough experience to suggest other techniques. In order to facilitate sexual intimacy dialogue, a study published April 14, 2021, in PLoS One reported on a national survey conducted by the University of Indiana in concert with the OMGYES Research Group/For Goodness Sake that looked at the sexual experiences of thousands of American women to find out what made vaginal penetration more pleasurable for them.

Four Ways to Achieve Heightened Sexual Arousal

After analyzing the results from an international qualitative study, the researchers, Devon J. Hensel, PhD, an associate research professor at Indiana University School of Medicine in Indianapolis, and Christiana von Hippel, ScD, an OMGYES research scientist, found a recurring pattern of four specific techniques that never really had words to describe them before. The team then looked closer into these four techniques using a cross-sectional, online, national probability survey of 3,017 American women ages 18–93. 

“We took this deeper dive into the patterns to find out the percentage of women who used each technique during vaginal penetration and then looked at how those specific techniques impacted their pleasure,” says Dr. von Hippel. In other words, they looked at the specific sexual moves and methods that turned them on.

The researchers gave terms for each of these sexual methods to help women identify and communicate what feels best to them.

  • Angling Rotating, raising, or lowering pelvis and hips during penetration to adjust where inside the vagina the toy or penis rubs; 87 percent of respondents used this method.
  • Pairing A woman or her partner stimulates her clitoris with a finger or sex toy simultaneously with penetration. (69 percent)
  • Rocking The base of a penis or sex toy rubs against the clitoris constantly during penetration by staying all the way inside the vagina rather than thrusting in and out. Usually used when the woman is on top. One of the respondents explained its allure: “We had to ‘unlearn’ the fast-pumping motions we had seen in porn. And we’re both much happier with our new ways.” (76 percent)
  • Shallowing Penetrative touch just inside the entrance of the vagina. Another respondent said, “I think this area is really underrated. I can have really amazing sex with penetration just going in an inch and never further.” (84 percent).

Using Language for Sexual Techniques Is Powerful

“I think naming pleasure and pleasure techniques are specifically empowering and usable, so women can feel comfortable and confident using them with partners. They are also important for when women discuss their sex lives with friends, such as ‘I like this, why don’t you try that?’ To be able to specifically describe what they like and to be able to ask for it is incredibly empowering and helps women to feel like their voices are heard. There is also a normalizing effect as well when they realize that what they like is a pattern that’s shared by lots of women,” says von Hippel.

Dr. von Hippel adds that having language also allows women to be flexible and describe what they want at the moment. “What you enjoy can change in the middle of a sexual experience, and it can change over your life. Having this large menu or repertoire of words and techniques that you can pull from is great, because then it’s also not a question of “I am a woman who likes x.’ It might be ‘I am a woman who loves pairing in this context and shallowing in this context and angling at this age.’ Women can feel confident to communicate and mix and match.”

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The Physicality of BDSM: Why Does It Feel Good?

Patti Britton, PhD, MPH, cofounder of the credentialing and training institute Sex Coach U and a past president of the American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, as well as other experts are quick to point out that seeking the pain-pleasure connection is not unique to the BDSM community. Think of athletes who push past physical comfort to experience a “runner’s high,” or people who chase thrills by engaging in dangerous extreme sports, like skydiving. Think of the bliss that aficionados of super spicy food experience when biting into a pepper sets their mouth on fire, or the rush of fear that riding a roller coaster or watching a horror movie can bring.

“The same chemical cocktail of endorphins, dopamine, and other hormones that make those experiences pleasurable to some makes BDSM actually quite wonderful to others,” says clinical sexologist Francesca Gentille, coeditor of The Marriage of Sex & Spirit, and host of the podcast Sex: Tantra & Kama Sutra. “I like to compare sexual preferences to taste in food. Most of us don’t like bland food, but we have a range of how spicy we like it.”

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